Ladies, is it just me?

You are not going to like this - no expectations, no disappointments. Not very enlightened. I most likely move down several notches in your esteem.

WKB - Have you ever fallen alseep after a really romantic evening, dinner, talking, etc...then boom, your out.....? Be honest now!

Victoriawood, worry not! Do not judge yourself, as I will never judge you! You will always be held in high esteem!

We have a gift- every day, to wake up, and seize it! I, too, have no expectations, nor do I have any desire at all to accumulate any more regrets! We live our lives, we follow our hearts, we feel the time as it marks our spirit, and fills us with wisdom and compassion! Enjoy what we have, and fear not!

I like this:

desiderata - by max ehrmann

Go placidly amid the noise and haste, and remember what peace there may be in silence.

As far as possible, without surrender, be on good terms with all persons. Speak your truth quietly and clearly; and listen to others, even to the dull and the ignorant, they too have their story. Avoid loud and aggressive persons, they are vexations to the spirit.

If you compare yourself with others, you may become vain and bitter; for always there will be greater and lesser persons than yourself. Enjoy your achievements as well as your plans. Keep interested in your own career, however humble; it is a real possession in the changing fortunes of time.

Exercise caution in your business affairs, for the world is full of trickery. But let this not blind you to what virtue there is; many persons strive for high ideals, and everywhere life is full of heroism. Be yourself. Especially, do not feign affection. Neither be cynical about love, for in the face of all aridity and disenchantment it is perennial as the grass.

Take kindly to the counsel of the years, gracefully surrendering the things of youth. Nurture strength of spirit to shield you in sudden misfortune. But do not distress yourself with imaginings. Many fears are born of fatigue and loneliness.

Beyond a wholesome discipline, be gentle with yourself. You are a child of the universe, no less than the trees and the stars; you have a right to be here. And whether or not it is clear to you, no doubt the universe is unfolding as it should.

Therefore be at peace with God, whatever you conceive Him to be, and whatever your labors and aspirations, in the noisy confusion of life, keep peace in your soul.

With all its sham, drudgery and broken dreams, it is still a beautiful world.

Be cheerful. Strive to be happy.

Max Ehrmann c.1920

I also like this:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Msa_UIh_w_Q&feature=related

Seize the day! :-)

Thank you for that posting. It was beautiful, touching and so true indeed. We all need more of that in the world today. Again, thanks for the contribution.

Hi WKB are you trying the poetry hit? :P It worked!

wkboy, your the best. Thanks for always pointing us in the right direction with encouraging words and wisdom.

Its all good, and only gets better!! :-)

It's me - shallow as hell - I'm still giggling at the first ref to "We have a gift- every day, to wake up, and seize it!"

Thanks for one of my all time faves, WKB. I do believe I had "desiderata" memorized many years ago.

:)

XO, VW

It's me - shallow as hell - I'm still giggling at the first ref to "We have a gift- every day, to wake up, and seize it!"

Oh, maybe I should have posted that on the Mr. Sleeze McNuggets Esq. article, *giggles*! :-)

Loretta Kemsley

But then, there are those who've mastered more adult techniques.

Ya think? Oh, and get this. Some of us are intelligent too!

But then, there are those who've mastered more adult techniques. Wow, are they a treasure. Let's celebrate them while the others struggle to catch up.

Amen to that!

Loretta you are so right, however I will add - I find that all that groping is just a form of appeasment...sort of like all talk and no action. They can't but want you to think they can.

Yeah, him doing any kind of housework is a turn on. And then I'm not so tired.

I do remember one fool long, long ago in another era thinking that bumps and grinds against my backside while I did dishes or took hot things out of the oven was the best sex trick ever. I sent him home to mommy and daddy. Figured it wasn't my job to explain the birds and bees to him.

And what is even better is when I grab his nipple/other?- while HE is doing the dishes! He can hardly wait to get the dishes done- and sometimes does have to stop and finish later- the dishes of course!

I just can't see it. Sex mixed with dishes leaves me feeling postal.

I didn't see that, no..... I remember The Whoopie Boys, though. That was a hilarious example of men trying to get a woman.

You may enjoy this: Porn for Women. Be sure to search inside!

Dearie, school yourself about picking your dates.

Sincerely, Ann Landers

Neenie: I can relate! Great points that I think a majority of women can relate too.

Having sex more often starts with being a true partner; getting up off his rear end and helping out with daily chores; dinner, dishes, bathing kids, homework, walking the dog, taking the trash out, picking up, etc., and doing it because it's the right thing to do; not because he wants sex (then pouts when it doesn't happen on demand.)

Great sex has elements of intelligent, flirtatious exchanges, mixed with emotional and passionate connections that aren't based on lust (lust is not passion). Rather, it's based on admiration, respect, and trust in one another knowing that if I give you my heart, my body, and all that I am, you're not going to tromp all over me when it's convenient for you.

Great sex begins with good communication in bed and mutual considerations for one another's sensitivies, desires, likes/dislikes and needs.

Great sex is not always about reaching the end, but savoring and enjoying the journey in discovering one another's pleasure troves, opening passions and emotions during the most initmate exchanges of love and tenderness between two people.

Kori Great comment I totally agree with you and have had those thoughts for the past thirty years. That why I am very particular in who I have sex with. It is called quality not quantity. :-} Thank you for putting it so eloquently, I even printed it out :-}

Article and comments are great..... ROFLMAO

Okay, put down the porno. Contrary to what porn promotes, women don't derive their most amazing sexual "Woo, hoo, hoo's" out of servicing their men. Believe it or not, they have some glory spots too.

Learn all you can about the clitoris. It's this wonderful little nubby thing that tells her to love you forever.

Look for the g-spot too. That's inside, but you can find it. Sure you can.

And then there's the clitoris.

No random bump and grinds....no stealth attacks....no "hey, I wanna so you must wanna too" assumptions especially at the kitchen sink.

And...and....ummm....did I mention the clitoris? If I didn't, it's kinda important.

I get mad when a man focuses on that thing, Loretta. It's not the best way to rub me.

Well, I guess to each their own. So what would you tell the men of the world?

I'm innocent I tell you. Innocent.

Couldn't be anything else at this stage of my life.

And now I depart lest I be tarred and feathered.

:)

Lol....well.....after acknowledging that I'm not normal, I'd tell them to find another woman to devote their attention to, or to duck and run.

I like back rubs that don't require sex. I like nice dinners and flowers that don't require sex. Don't do nice things for the purpose of getting in her britches. Sex should be spontaneous, healthy, and wanted by BOTH parties. If you want to get her in the mood, just be a nice, great guy without all the fumbing, cursing, and begging for the sex.

That's great advice. Foreplay begins long before any sexual touching is done.

And Paladin, you get back here and explain more about that vibrating....could be interesting....

I'm old not stupid.

The tremors from Parkinson's is all.

The Ladies at the tavern started it, I tell you. Innocent against my will, am I.

Foreplay is key to happy relationship, to me. It can last months, even, without any physical contact. I don't think men recognize that sex is not the icing on the cake. It's the intimacy, the common ground, and the unity of a couple that solidifies a relationship.

Innocent against my will, am I.

Okay, let me get this straight: if you had your way, you'd be guilty? The ladies at the tavern may have started it, but you didn't have to keep going back, did you? LOL

River: yes, emotional intimacy is by far the most important sexual turn on.

Della Reese was on Larry King last night. She said we're making a mistake when we ask for equality. What we want is equity. I think that applies here.

Okay, let me get this straight: if you had your way, you'd be guilty?

Of lovemaking with a Lady according to her wants and needs; oh, indeed.

LOL. Okay, then go ahead and be guilty.

:)

River-239955

I don't think men recognize that sex is not the icing on the cake.

You don't know much about men then. Not every man is a groping sex fiend as you'd like to believe. I'm an intelligent man and I like women who are not only good in bed, but who also can think critically and hold a conversation. Go figure.

Nooooo rickace, don't say that! We men be dumb and only think about sex all day, we want dumb girls, ughhh

Oh, did I say something about that? I did? Really? Huh, can't remember what it was...but I know it must be important...gotta drag out the books again...

I heard that MaryEllen! Like I said, timing IS everything.

Happy "finishing the dishes" tonite"! :)

And don't forget the standard mating call, beer belches and bean farts.... How could you not like kissing that?

Michelle you lucky woman you.....OMG - does he have a brother? Really, all day long....you have a rare one indeed! Mine quit kissing altogether 5 years before I left him. All he did was grab, tweek, grab and talk about it.....no action. Couldn't "back" it up!

That's his idea of "hurry, hurry"! :-)

LMAO! Sorry Michele, I don't have that problem ;)

I'm envious here! I wish my hubby gave me the frenchie one everytime!

At the risk of sounding Freudian, I TRULY, truly do believe the theory of "... he's subconsciously wanting to RELIVE the comfort of being breast fed." I have even had some to vocalize this! (Of course I am old enough now to have heard A LOT of it:-)

Nuff said?

You missed the point..........I dont care what Freud says.....or if a man needs to subconciously relive anything......

It's NOT the answer to give someone you want to get into bed with.

LOL seriously that's right up there with........You'd let me **** you if you really really loved me.....or it's biologically important to give me a blowjob.......

LOL

ROFLMAO. Okay, that one got me. Must log off for a while and find something to clean the drink off my keyboard.

I'm just glad I didn't have anything in my mouth. No pun intended...LOL

I wonder if the guy tweeking the nipples thinks that is like turning on the engine or something.... hey that hurts.... I won't let anyone come near my girls with a pearcing needle either!!!!

A warm tounge or a pair of lips beats a pair of pinchers any day. We want a man, not a lobster.

Oh, oh, oh. That is too good. A lobster....yeah, perfect description. I'm sure glad we all gathered here today. It kept me sane on a really grueling day.

Glad to be of help... I actually have to work this morning, so I still have to go to work. I just popped on to say Happy Memorial Day!!!!

Happy Memorial Day- to you and the other ladies and gents that "helped" US All with your postings.

I'm up for the day, having cooked and "done the dishes" last night, so I'm all set to have some more fun with you Barbs & Kens today. :-)

Like riding a bicycle: once you learn how to, you never forget! Trust yourself, there is nothing new "under the Sun". :)

Oh but Stephanie, that just turns them on more.....hehehehe

You know, I am sure it would turn my husband on even more...and I would probably end up getting an unwanted shower from the kitchen sink sprayer too.

That's the ticket, lol - you mean sprayed with his hose.....have fun cooking today my dear:-)/P>

Heck, you are so right, I little slap here a little bite there, oh yeah, might not even make it to the bedroom, right there in the cold tile.

Oh baby, throw me a pillow:)

No pillows, you can rest on my arms for the whole night even when has fallen sleep and feels like it will never wake up, you can rest your head onm my arm.

Your arm, it better be busy doing something.....cept laying there....lmao!!!

hey only one arm is going to be under your head, last ime I checked I had two, I will have one free arm!

One armed bandid huh...

only while you sleeping once I wake you up whit all the "poking" and tickling, once you are awake I will use everything in my arswenal!

Actually, no she did like me to do that, it would jsut embarrass her, and for being my ex, hell she just "lost that loving feeling"

Let me know if it works. I've got some dishes in the sink.

Was talking to a gal just now who has the opposite problem. Her boyfriend's mother sells them wonderful toys. He's always bringing a new one home "We gotta try this..." She said at first she was delighted, but after a while she began to feel like she should be getting paid to test the damn things. Guess you can get too much of a good thing..

Just ran that into the ground - didn't he? He should have learned "when to hold up"!